How to Create Safe Space in Order to Create New Life
Four and a half steps to journeying into more playful ways of living
What truly is the blessing of our deeper being that wants to come out and dance the dance of existence in everyday life? How to understand that we can design our life in alignment with that cosmic tune that we can (or cannot) dance to? Is the way we choose to live life in tune with the expression of our highest good, our biggest excitement? Do we need a space to enroll in life full of miracles as living beings?
Yes! It is time.
We as humans have been creating a joyful existence for years, ages, eons, and now is the time to embody that tribal connection within current situations. Yes, we have the courage to embody these ancient expressions of humanity, a way which is simply ingrained in us, and there is no training or teaching involved as we all know in the depth of our beings what it is we need, and what it is we can do. What is necessary for us to understand that we can always voice our truth?
The life we live - most people in the industrialized societies anyway - is quite limited. We might perceive material abundance and consumerism as freedom, freedom to choose with our money what our next trip will be or which color we want our new car to be. Beautiful, but quite limited.
Now, as we are coming out of a major age of darkness, the light can only come in as slowly as our weary eyes allow it to come in for us not to be blinded. So, little by little our shadow side will unveil itself, as a person and on the whole. This we can see in the media and in all kinds of neurotic tendencies in the collective of humanity. Many people do not know how to manage new energies coming in as we have not been accustomed to them. As more of the darkness shows and we move through as a collective, more of our light will be shining and we can be in tune with them. Moreover, we also truly have the knowledge inside to manage the chaos and transition we are in. We are those new energies, and that is a blessing. At the same time, it is super helpful to have a guide or teacher to help us move through the shadows, but not for all.
Work is necessary as we are here on a soul journey to learn and express ourselves fully, but as we tune in to these 'new' energies - who we really are - it becomes more easy, effortless, to embody them. Then beauty allows itself to unfold in the eye of the creation.
As we all understand, no-one knows what is around the corner. At the same time we cannot pretend that magic doesn’t exist and that all life is already decided and just done to us. We are both the weaver, the loom and the weaving at the same time, and acknowledging that we chose that multi-dimensional journey to be just for us is a true blessing. Along with that comes the understanding that all is unique. A person next to you in the bus is another existence. Everybody has their beautiful and weird journey on this planet, and time to play has come again. The beauty of going out of your zone of comfort, out into the world, and finding new ways creates space for a new being to arise, which creates a place of peace and harmony inside from where all life can emerge. We do not need to be all the same, and there is no way we can be all the same, ever. That idea is pure illusion and conditioned mindset. Allow yourself to step out of the narrow line of held frequency that society prescribes. We are all unique and the beauty of that uniqueness is our true blessing. We do not have to be in tune with what everyone else is believing, and letting go of expectations is what can make us go free, as all we ever have been and all we ever will be. The day we create a space to be real our joy and peace can reign and be authentic. This is what is needed for us to be fully here in our personal expression of soul.
So, how to create that space to allow your soul to truly tune in to the pure expression of your soul that you came here to be?
The first step is the mindset. Understanding that there is a difference between caring for and catering to others. Between loving and needing. A lot of people have a train of thought something like this: 'I love you because you are similar to me.'
That means in order to be loved by these people you need to adapt to what they need from you. Tiring… Love simply is , unconditionally. That means I can be who I am and I will be loved, always.
If people have inner processing to do as a result of you being you, that is fine. Loving yourself can involve being ruthless. If I am being someone I am not, does that mean I am caring for someone? If I am being my true and blessed self, even though others might feel triggered by me, does that mean I do not care about them or their opinions? The ones that truly love you will stick around through rain and sunshine, and there might be a lot of them or there might be a little, but at least you have your truth, and from there you can attract your tribe. And that tribe will change again, too.
Second, take your time. Take your time to allow all the winding up of life to lose momentum. That is simply what it is, lose momentum. Into peace.
The mind cannot fake that peace, that calm state of ease and grace that comes when momentum of mind activity dies down. Try not to create more mind activity. Take time to be in that space, however long you need. Know that you are held, know that you are taken care of at all times, and that any manifestation in life is actually creation aligning to how it will most easily bring you to your highest potential and joy, and showing you the fastest route around (or through) the blocks of your resistance to get you to where you are going anyway. There is a soul journey which we will explore, and simultaneously we have a free choice to play with. Ease into it.
Third, learn to express from the Heart. Your heart is the heart of all. And it is also a personal heart, of course. Yet, our sacred fire inside (the Heart) is eternally connected to the sacred fire of our Earth, the center of our planet. That sacred fire is connected to the sun, the sacred fire of our solar system, which is connected to the sacred fires of our constellations and galaxies. All the way to the source which blazes it imploding breath of expanding and contracting force.
Allowing space and time for Heart-flow to exist is vital. We create a connection into the heart of all. We are , and thus we can easily tune into the flowing blood that exists all through existence. So enjoy that. Really take time to breath into that space to be heard and expressed. It is OK to talk to random people or ‘foreigners’ - you might have a better time than you expect. A person from abroad is a blessing, as many people in the industrialized world have no idea of what it feels like to be connected in tribe or family, and believing that we somehow know better than the rest of the world being a ‘first world’ society is simply ignorant and painful. In the same way, we can truly bless ourselves by following our heart’s need in expressing, even to unknown people in the street.
Another beautiful way to express from the heart is by creating a Heart circle. A Heart circle is a space where you sit down with your community, family members, friends, your partner, relatives or colleagues in a circle, and after agreeing that all that is said will remain in this circle and will not be shared with anyone else, you pass around a talking stick or talisman. Start by opening the circle and deciding how many rounds of talking you will do, and place the talisman in the middle. The first person who feels called to speak picks it up and everybody else listens, from the heart, as the talker expresses. It is a very healing ritual where we can truly show our courage and share our experience without any need to fix an issue or solve a problem. Just listening. We can just be, and the group listens - nobody interrupts the speaker at any time.
Four: create! Be the creator of your life. You are worth it, every minute of this short and worthy experience on Earth. There is no time to lose, and at the same time taking action to create a life in alignment with your soul’s path is a step by step process, as we all need to unlearn in order to remember, and even though we are the creators of this experience, time and willingness are needed to recreate reality as you wish. Always remember to stay in the body and create using movement, using laughter, using theater, dance and drawing, writing or the spoken word. Feel your thoughts and the vibrations of your words as you express and consciously choose to create a life that is aligned with your truth, whatever that may be. You have got it!
Find a place to dance or express your dream life with or without words, or draw a big cloud of tag words about your dream reality. Feel it, not rationally, and play. Move your body, move your senses and tune in to that juiciness of creation. It can be very helpful to set aside a time of one hour up to 90 minutes to be free to feel and move into that space of creation, and then visualize the way that all feels. Jump, shout, cry, whatever. It is good to create a soft space with many pillows if anger, grief or frustration need to be let go of in the process. Just to make sure you are physically not hurting yourself in the process of releasing :)
Another last piece of advice is to always trust the process. Not as a way to get lazy about working, but understanding that everything always works out. It already is working out right now, and will only get better in juicy ways as we allow it to be just that. Thanks!
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